Happiness starts beneath your nose. - Kim Nalley @ Be Hot Yoga
Ok guys, check this out. I recently heard on the radio about an actual study that was centered around how much women glare at each other. What? Yes, GLARE at each other. You know what I'm talking about because chances are you have been looked at that same way or dare I say that you have cast that same glance?
You know, anytime you have felt like you are just bad to the bone and needing to emphasize that by casting a look that reaffirms your thoughts? And not just because you feel better than, but maybe for a gajillion other reasons that are still equally as shallow and sad.
So how much of the time is this happening?
The findings suggested that 50% of the time women looked at another woman they found themselves glaring.
Appalling! The reality of it is sad. To me anyway. I know what they are talking about and you know what? I'm not innocent either. I have dealt my fair share of glares to complete strangers who are probably really great gals. BUT, why?
What is it about our humaness that tells us that a mean streak makes us a little better than someone else? Like we are participating in some hierarchy, competition or food chain. Does it establish us as feeling sophisticated and better than? Is there truth to the thought that we think we are raising ourselves up by putting others down? Do we just feel that we have to be that hard to make it in this life? Is that what it takes to look cool? Or could it be that the harshness actually starts inside us? That we are so judgmental of ourselves, we are not really sure how to give anything else to the world? This is the one that breaks my heart the most.
Think about that glare like a ripple effect. The study suggests that the looks leave the receiver with feelings of doubt and discouragement. Is that fulfillment? Is it fulfilling to know that you might have had a part in continuing a negative cycle? That just maybe, you helped contribute to a mindset of humans not trusting other human beings? All from one glare, one look.
K, sorry for the guilt trip, BUT sometimes looking at life from the opposite angle helps us hold onto the reasons to do something different. Something completely different, achieving the opposite results.
Think about what could cause a positive ripple effect. No, I'm serious. Has anyone ever really affected your day with one look? For the better? Gosh, I still hold love in my heart for a complete, HAPPY stranger I saw years ago at the DMV. He has walking & whistling. When my husband and I walked by him he looked toward us and smiled. Easy. But he shared his happiness with us. He was throwing kindness around like was confetti. When we receive this from the world we have more to "give." We are more encouraged and trusting. I love the thought of a happy ripple effect and am hoping today to encourage awareness of what a simple smile can do. Happiness starts beneath your nose. My we exude happiness and change the world by doing so!
Here is a fun poem that I memorized with my kiddos a long time ago and it's words still dance on my tongue, so glad they do!
Smiling Is Infectious
Smiling is infectious,
you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner
and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realized
I'd passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realized its worth.
A single smile, just like mine
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin,
don't leave it undetected.
Let's start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected!